How shall we
honor and embody
the mystery…?

Right-Brained
Personal Growth Coaching

You feel deeply.

There is an ocean of subtleties and dimensions to your experience. Words often feel inadequate to communicate it. Our dominant culture built on taking, using, producing, and consuming doesn’t represent you… you are not a widget, and it hurts trying to be a widget. You may already be actively exploring alternative ways of living that honor beauty, interconnection, and the wholeness of life. You tap into realities that lie at the edge of the known.

At the moment, you might feel stuck in the after-effects of what happened to you: self-doubt, shame, harsh self-criticism, overwhelming feelings, detachment and alienation, reactivity, overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or other survival strategies. You may struggle with finding your authentic self or letting this self be seen. But you feel called to a different life, and you will go the extra length if that’s what it takes to transform.

You sense that something else can bloom.

Hi, I’m Tate.

I’m a companion on the path of possibilities.

Nobody has this being human thing completely handled, and I trust that we each do what we do because we’re following the best map known to us to date.

I can support you to turn around from dead ends and leave stuck repetitive loops, and move forward with a new sense of who you are and what you’re about. Together, we will cultivate a conscious, authentic, mindful, compassionate relationship to yourself. We explore the stories and unexamined models of reality that you’ve lived by, we get in touch with unconscious patterns on the physical level, feel the unfelt feelings in the context of safety, open doors to your dreams, create new felt connections on the inside, develop new meanings and perceptions, then go into relationship with other people from a foundation of sovereignty, connection, and flexibly responsive boundaries. New ways of being become possible.

This is not about me coming to you with solutions and a five-step plan. In fact, the path of discovery can be windy and quite non-linear. At the same time, you feel driven to grow out of current structures that define yourself and the world. So, I won’t just give you some tools for your mental toolbox that you should apply to fix the widget. Instead, I will create an emotionally engaged container where you can be seen and felt, where you can discover new inner landscapes and have different and new relational experiences. I will invest in really knowing you, and I want you to be equally invested. I will meet you where you are by attuning to the rhythm of your specific states, needs, and challenges each session, nudging you towards your learning horizon. You will provide mindfulness, honesty, a willingness to not know yet, and an open curiosity about yourself.

This is about experiential work: getting vulnerable and taking risks in service of growth and integration.

Where I’m coming from

In my fundamental orientation, I’ve been very influenced by attachment theory, polyvagal theory, mindfulness, somatic therapies, nondual spirituality, and nature-based spirituality. My work is mindful, somatic, experiential, attachment-based, trauma-informed, humanistic, holistic, and existential.

I draw on my trainings and study in these modalities:

Hakomi Experiential Psychology, Authentic Relating, Art of Circling, Inner Relationship Focusing, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, Clean Language, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Re-Creation of the Self, Nonviolent Communication, Tai Chi, Authentic Movement, Brainspotting, Neuro-Affective Touch

As well as, and importantly, on my lived experience of being an unconventional human who is forever orienting to wonderment. While I have training in these modalities, my most important credential is decades of dedication to expanding beyond my own wounds and limitations. My authority is based in enjoying who I am, composting hardships into soil for growing my perspective and my heart, and appreciating being alive.

Offerings

Individual sessions

You have a particular area of life where you want to grow. It’s usually either about changing something in your relationship to yourself or something in your relationship to other people, or both.

We look into what’s actually there for you below the surface, recognize patterns, feel new feelings, and free up stuck energy, so you can act in alignment with your deeper truth.

If working through a particular issue, you can sign up for a series of weekly sessions. Some people also find it useful to do occasional one-off sessions, whenever they need some extra support.

Group facilitation and workshops

Several times a year, I host large group events, usually in the tradition of Authentic Relating. These are experiential learning workshops in self-awareness, emotional intelligence, conscious communication, and empathy.

I also facilitate large group experiential workshops on interpersonal topics and emotional intelligence skills. Occasionally I host small group circles inspired by the Circling® method.

These groups happen in the Portland, Oregon area or online. If you are interested in bringing me to an event or gathering in your community, please reach out!

Custom programs

You have an idea for a program, intensive, workshop, or retreat that you would like to invite me to be a part of? Perhaps you’re looking for some custom individualized support that hasn’t been fully described here? Or maybe you have an idea for creative collaboration?

I welcome you to reach out and tell me about your situation. Let’s find out what’s possible!

I offer free 30-minute consultations
so we can get to know each other
and see how we might work together.